How long do you hold a grudge or grudges?

I really try not to hold any grudges ! I might be upset with someone for a while but I usually just let it go and avoid them. Grudges are horrible for you and create a lot of needless stress. Not liking someone and holding a grudge are two different things. No, I don't hold grudges or even believe in them.

Oh resentments ate me up like pacman when i was younger. Im older now but im not perfect. I just try to let it fly

Very shortly. Others in my experience usually about the same depending on the person, unless the they continue to be distant and wont talk to me then it usually ends quickly.

I think they call the opposing being... "stubborn"?

I agree with the rest.  I don't hold the anger.  I do stay away from cranky and rude people.  I'd rather hold my granddaughters than hold a grudge.

Never, not enough room for hate in my brain.

All the time.

(But it does take some rather unpleasant behaviour to make me bear a grudge in the first place).

Here is a story.

I was working late at night at Her Majesty's Stationary Office Press in Edinburgh. We were rolling out a new computer system.

I had to call the supplier's tech. Dept. After things started to go badly wrong.

The guy on the other end of the 'phone (He was called Tony Davis) was supremely rude and unhelpful, spoke to me using "colourful" language.

The foreman (my second in command that night) was on a second line and heard the entire exchange.

I've got a really thick skin, and just wanted a problem fixed. My foreman (a very "proper" Scotsman), on the other hand, was not prepared to let it go. The next morning he 'phoned my boss and detailed the entire conversation.

One phone call to the supplier from my boss got Mr Davis the sack.

Fast forward 5 years. I was offered a job as Technical Director for a major publishing group. I was being walked around, introduced to tech, staff. We walked into one office and my host introduced me:

"Ray, This is Tony Davis, you might already know each other, he was tech support for ****** when you were rolling out the HMSO Edinburgh Project, he'd be working for you!"

"Hi Tony, I'm Ray Dart"

I have never seen a face so ashen.

I was about to get him the sack for a second time.

I didn't actually REALLY bear a grudge, I'd almost forgotten about him.

I let them go as quickly as possible.  They only distract from the good things in life, and I'd much rather spend my time and energy on those.

Grudges affect you more then the individual. It might make them feel bad at first but they will most likely get over it . . Then it's just aging you and causing you stress . . .

Talk it out, and move on . . Life's too short.