I can come off a bit mean to people due to my attitide and 'rude' personality. How can I be nicer? I know it's a weird question but I don't want to be mean to people when I dont mean it..

Dear Anon,

I like HappyTwo's answer for you very much, and what I would add, or expand upon, is Happy's mention of the empathy.

Yes minimize the digital stuff, especially video games nothing that has any violence. Tenderness with yourself in reading lots of beautiful books, exquisitely tender music, even soft and tender colors in your life. Practice writing letters to people, and put in warmth and love... writing can be a rehearsal for face-to-face.

When you are with others, open yourself to them and do lots of listening, just responding softly to their deep thoughts they may share with you.

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By changing your environment to bring out the best in yourself, you will see your life opening new and wonderful horizons.

This is a huge issue for many, especially in this digital age with less face-to-face contact.  Empathy is my first response.  If you take the time to see the person, your instinct will be to respond with kindness and respect.  However, there's much more to it.

Since there isn't a simple answer, I suggest you read "How to Win Friends and Influence People," by Dale Carnegie.

Don't let the title dissuade you.  It's not about manipulation.  It's about learning to relate to people.

Basic manners go a long way in conversations. A simple please or thank you goes a long way. Also if someone asks for advice, you shouldn't tell them what to do but suggest an option. In other words instead of saying, "You need to do..."  It is better to say, "I would do..." Or "You might want to try...."