Friends When You Lose Someone Due To Death Does It Change Your Mood Or Personality For While Or Is It Just Me?

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Toni Pauze Profile
Toni Pauze answered

I too signed on this morning looking for him knowing he was gone. My ballon was busted so I signed off. Haven’t had the heart to come back till now.  After five plus years of his presents everyday he is so going to be missed. I’m going to miss going to the store looking for that perfect funny card to mail him.  He loved getting mail. Echoo, Skip and I made a point of mailing him a card every month.  As you know he posted it every time.  That man has left an empty spot that’s going to take a long time to heal.

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Darren Wolfgang
Darren Wolfgang commented
Thanks for your comment, yes it will take us all a while to get over him . Just the few months i knew him it has left a empty feeling inside hard to believe he's gone. Yes it will take time to heal for sure to think he was here on June 7th and day after he passed away so sad :(
Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

Absolutely.

All of us who loved him suffered a real loss.  Any loss requires time to be dealt with.

This is a big one.

Yin And Yang Profile
Yin And Yang answered

I love the beautiful answers you have here Darren. Each person is different, and yet we all hurt for him deeply. I am by far no expert nor do I have a degree but what I can offer you is experience. Some of us will go into quiet mode. Some will question their own faith and mortality. Some will squash their feelings to be the "comforter" or care giver to other people's grieving. Sometimes that is a default mechanism so said person don't have to deal with their own grief. Some will take it to the Lord. Some will cling to family and some will push family away because if the pain of losing a friend is this great, they can't imagine losing another. Some drowned themselves in work or hobbies. Some will obsess over pictures, memories and preserving the memory because they are terrified if they don't, then their loved one will be forgotten. Some hold on to the pain feeling that if they let the pain go then it will be betraying our loved one or if they let the pain go, they feel it's what is left connecting them to their loved one. The list goes on and on. When you add mental health and emotional issues into the mix, health problems and physical pain, stress of everyday life, environment and your support system, that effects the grieving as well.

To put it bluntly, yes grief does change a person's personality. NONE of us will ever be the exact same way we were two days ago just like two days ago we weren't the same as June 7th. I like to say after my sister's died "things will never be "normal" again. We will have to find our new "normal." Right now Darren you have a lot on your mind, your in shock and your scrambling to find your new "normal." We all are. We are all here for each other. Your family members will have to take a backseat to your grief for a few days. You'll pick up the pieces. I know you will.

Firstname Refreshme lastname Profile

Yes it changes a person.

It makes me introspective. It also leaves me with an empty feeling.

What I'd give just to see one more posting from him. I had come to expect one everyday. But ~ sigh ~ no more.

Megan goodgirl Profile
Megan goodgirl answered

yes that's normal.

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Darren Wolfgang
Darren Wolfgang commented
Thank you for your comment, you know Otis passed away and he will be missed, it's terrible cause i loss my Brother through Christ yes a part of me he took with him:(
Flora Huang Profile
Flora Huang answered

I have to move somewhere that is far away from where my friends are right now, and I feel very depressed in the inside (even though I may seem fine on the outside). Yes, being depressed is normal when someone you know well is gone.

Darren Wolfgang Profile
Darren Wolfgang answered
Since losing Otis on here i have noticed today that i feel worthless to my family and also feel that they are knit picking me about things for example I had to take shower today and I was in the bathroom for while well my family ( cousins) had to use the bathroom and they were belly aching about needing to go and i was so moody today with them and told them i felt worthless, i told them i felt like a nuisance . I'm sorry if I'm totally wrong for feeling this way but in the 3-4 months i knew Otis , i loved him like a Brother,  i was going to put my laptop on this morning and i just about broke down in tears for moment cause i knew he wasn't going to be here anymore and it hurts me so much inside cause he was here with his question of the day on June 7, 2018 and than all sudden i read his obituary saying about him passing away June 8th ,  It's like i loss a family member . I said my prayers today and i do think God sent us a sign telling us that he was taking him home with him but i just think we never knew it was going to happen this way . Otis will deeply missed and there is place in my heart that is missing and that's seeing him on here. Just for the few months i met him it's like part of me is gone inside. My mood today isn't with things i sure hope i can overcome this hurt i feel inside and this emotional rolly coaster  I'm feeling here with my family i hope it subsides as well. Thanks for reading this long message. God Bless You All!!! ~Hugs~ I Love You All!!! You're Friend Always, Darren

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