Friends When You Lose Someone Due To Death Does It Change Your Mood Or Personality For While Or Is It Just Me?

I too signed on this morning looking for him knowing he was gone. My ballon was busted so I signed off. Haven’t had the heart to come back till now.  After five plus years of his presents everyday he is so going to be missed. I’m going to miss going to the store looking for that perfect funny card to mail him.  He loved getting mail. Echoo, Skip and I made a point of mailing him a card every month.  As you know he posted it every time.  That man has left an empty spot that’s going to take a long time to heal.

Darren, I answered your question in Chat. I didn't realize you posted it here until I already answered on the Chat section.

Absolutely.

All of us who loved him suffered a real loss.  Any loss requires time to be dealt with.

This is a big one.

I love the beautiful answers you have here Darren. Each person is different, and yet we all hurt for him deeply. I am by far no expert nor do I have a degree but what I can offer you is experience. Some of us will go into quiet mode. Some will question their own faith and mortality. Some will squash their feelings to be the "comforter" or care giver to other people's grieving. Sometimes that is a default mechanism so said person don't have to deal with their own grief. Some will take it to the Lord. Some will cling to family and some will push family away because if the pain of losing a friend is this great, they can't imagine losing another. Some drowned themselves in work or hobbies. Some will obsess over pictures, memories and preserving the memory because they are terrified if they don't, then their loved one will be forgotten. Some hold on to the pain feeling that if they let the pain go then it will be betraying our loved one or if they let the pain go, they feel it's what is left connecting them to their loved one. The list goes on and on. When you add mental health and emotional issues into the mix, health problems and physical pain, stress of everyday life, environment and your support system, that effects the grieving as well.

To put it bluntly, yes grief does change a person's personality. NONE of us will ever be the exact same way we were two days ago just like two days ago we weren't the same as June 7th. I like to say after my sister's died "things will never be "normal" again. We will have to find our new "normal." Right now Darren you have a lot on your mind, your in shock and your scrambling to find your new "normal." We all are. We are all here for each other. Your family members will have to take a backseat to your grief for a few days. You'll pick up the pieces. I know you will.

Yes it changes a person.

It makes me introspective. It also leaves me with an empty feeling.

What I'd give just to see one more posting from him. I had come to expect one everyday. But ~ sigh ~ no more.

yes that's normal.

I have to move somewhere that is far away from where my friends are right now, and I feel very depressed in the inside (even though I may seem fine on the outside). Yes, being depressed is normal when someone you know well is gone.