You probably can't get your husband to stop drinking. Unless you get him help. Just tell your son and your husband you refuse to let him(your son) ride with I'm while drunk. If that doesn't help id call the police and tell them that he is drinking and driving. That way maybe they can get him some help, if he wont listen to you
Hi, I do not have an answer for you, but this is exactly my same dilemma for years, we have 3 children, one is only 5 months old. I stay with my drunk driving passing out on the couch husband mainly because I fear what could happen to my children on his weekends if we were divorced. How easy is it to get restricted visitations due to alcoholism? Oh yeah, I have no money to fight him in court. He even drove my kids drunk, in the snow, to pick me up to take me to the hospital to have our baby. He was passed out in the chair as I was delivering. I finally was able to wake him by throwing an object at his head and repeatedly yelling his name. He did see her actually entry into the world, but then remained intoxicated the rest of our stay in the hospital. My other 2 children stayed with him for 1 night only that week I was in the hospital and when I called, he wouldn't wake up and my 5 year old daughter was screaming and scared. My 11 year old son was used to dad's behavior and was not scared. Anyhow, I was trapped in the hospital bed, my newborn was hooked up to the ultra-violet lights for jaundice, I couldn't even hold her, and I could not rescue my babies at home, I did get someone to save them that night, it was okay. Anyway, I am rambling, but my husband will be sober for 3-5 days (sometimes more) and I wind up trusting him to drive the 2 older ones somewhere, and low and behold, he gets back and he has obviously been drinking. This happens sometimes. It is a life that can make you SO HORRIBLY MISERABLE!!! I do try to not let him drive them usually, but then my denial takes hold when he goes through the sober period. Did I mention he only drinks in the car, bathroom or basement? I never see him, but he downs bottles of vodka. This is not an "answer to your question, but I am in your boat, and I am sorry for you and any other parents, children, and spouses who live with alcoholism hell.
Call the cops on him. That will fix it quick.
As a parent it's our responsibility to protect our children. If you let your child get into that car just be ready to say good bye to him or her for the last time. Whatever you do good luck!
Stop letting your son go with him