If A Husband Constantly Tells Other People Lies About His Wife, Is That A Mental Illness?

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If A Husband Constantly Tells Other People Lies About His Wife, Is That A Mental Illness?

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Answer 1

The best advice I can give you is to always be wary of jumping to conclusions. It's very easy to fit your perception of a person to a mental illness - if all you do is look at a list of symptoms.

Diagnosing mental health issues is a very tricky business, and even the professionals don't get it right all the time.

If there is any way that you could convince your husband to attend relationship counselling with you, then this would be your best course of action.

However, if your husband is being physically abusive towards you, then leave - straight away. You might be able to find time to work things out later, but your personal safety is paramount and you don't have to put up with an abusive relationship.

Working Out a Solution to Habitual Lying
Provided that you are physically safe, the first step is to find out more about your husband's behaviour - are you the only person that he tells lies about? Also, does he sometimes tell the truth about you, or does he only ever tell lies? Is he compelled to lie about many different things? What is the nature of these lies? Are they malicious, or more well-intended?

Your husband could have Narcissistic Personality Disorder or some other form of disorder that involves pathological lying. These disorders are not easy to treat, and frequently cause the sufferer's relationships to fail.

If you love your husband, then I'd understand that you'll be tempted to stand by him and help him get better. I would admire you greatly if you did this, but it will not be easy. The first step is to get him to admit to himself that he has a problem, and then to seek out help together.

Answer 2

My dad made everyone around my mom hate her; he was controlling and a con-artist. Everyone liked him, and when she came out about him beating her, no one believed her and she lost a lot of friends.

It was only after he raped my sisters' friend and nearly killed my mom that people realized the truth. My mom divorced my dad, and although my step-dad is 20 years older than my mom, he is by far her best choice.

Sweetie, if you are scared, go with your gut feeling and get out. I understand why you'd want to stand by your vows, but there is a limit - and protecting your health and well-being is that limit.

Answer 3

YES! At one time I was married to someone with that kind of personality disorder - your spouse has a narcissistic personality disorder. They are hard to detect because they have been who they are since they were children.

From what I have read on the Internet websites it is a new personality disorder. About 10% of the population have it. It occurs more in men than women.

Listed below are some defects of narcissistic personality disorder:

They have a grandiose opinion of themselves
They think they are smarter than anyone. By that, I mean a manipulator. They will do the evil deeds - lie, cheat, and manipulate - to get their own way
They believe they are special, and therefore, that all good things should come to them and no-one else
They will badger, insult, and emotionally beat their spouse down until they feel superior. Their children are not omitted from this either
They can be physically abusive

Reflecting back on my own experiences living with a narcissist caused me to wonder why they lie about their spouse. In my opinion it's because they are deeply, deeply insecure. They want to pay you back for something you said or did that made them angry.

They notice the attention they received when telling the lies about you or another person and enjoyed the attention. They are jealous of you for some dumb reason, and therefore, the narcissist doesn't want family and friends to like you.

When bringing up the subject as to why people are treating you differently, the narcissist will come back with a reply such as: "I don't know what you're talking about".

The list goes on, but in the end a narcissist will be who they are for the rest of their life - hurting others and feeling insecure.

I hope I have helped. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Either your husband dislikes you and is not being sincere with you, or he really is mad. You would both need to go to counselling to get a definitive answer, but I feel that he does not want any body to see you, and this can be an symptom of mental illness.

You should talk to him about this situation and ask not to do such things because telling lies is a bad thing to do, morally, socially and religiously speaking.