Just found two days ago my mom has stage 4 lung cancer. I've never lost anyone so close to me. My problem is all I can think about is that she is gonna die. I need to know what is realistically gonna happen?

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John Doe answered

Hi Paige, that's some very hard news to have to digest. Although nobody knows for sure what's going to happen with your mom, her doctors can give her....and the family.....guidance to make informed decisions regarding her care. That being said, my suggestion to you would be to spend as much quality time with your mom as you can, give her all your support and love, do things you enjoy doing together. Tell her every day that you love her. Best of luck to you.

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Paige Lore
Paige Lore commented
Ty i feel so numb.. I wanna spend time with her but she is always sleeping. Idk. Im so scared. But ty
John Doe
John Doe commented
I'm sure she's taking medications that make her sleepy, but when she's awake, make the best of the time you have, make some good memories for you to carry with you. It is normal to be frightened, hold you head up and keep a positive attitude!
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Thrice Gotcha answered

You should be preparing yourself for the day she leaves you, spend as much time with her as you possibly can and make her life as easy as you can its not easy no matter how you slice it but we are all waiting for our day to depart this world be positive.

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PJ Stein answered

Well that just bites. I am sorry you and your family have to go through this. As to what to expect, you will need to talk to your parents or your mom's doctors. The reality comes down to how she is going to treat it. All you can do is let her know you love her.

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Moga Deet answered

It's going to be sad and scary and sometimes you will be mad, too.  Hospitals often have support groups for people who are going through the same thing you are.  Try to find people to talk to.  Your Mom is dealing with a lot, too, so try to be patient if she is exhausted, emotional, angry, sick and every other emotion.  There's no right way for this to happen and nobody gets to practice ahead of time.

Ask your Mom if it is ok to include you when she talks to her doctor.  It will help you understand what is going on.

Your Mom wants you to have a happy, amazing life.  If she knows you are going to be ok, she will feel at peace. 

Talk to her, family and friends.  Talk to us, too.  Many of us have lost parents. 

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