I've realized i'm possessive/dominate toward other women. I tend to name call women. As a child/teen my step dad abused my mom physically/verbally. Could this be why i am like this? Some days i feel like i am exactly like him.

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I've realized i'm possessive/dominate toward other women. I tend to name call women. As a child/teen my step dad abused my mom physically/verbally. Could this be why i am like this? Some days i feel like i am exactly like him.

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Answer 1

Dear Anonymous,

You likely already know your answer is yes...we humankind, we cannot help but imitate what is around us...

And just the fact you are aware is so valuable...in Buddhism it's called The Watcher; you step back and see the drama - which is the basic step toward moving out of the drama.

Lots of compassion for yourself, also.

Answer 2

Understandable .. Abusive behaviour is often a 'learned' behaviour. However .. It is not something carved in stone. You have made a huge discovery about yourself and how you interact with others ... Women in particular. The thing about behaviour in terms of action, reaction and interaction is free choice You have the option to choose how to behave and treat people in your life. I am guessing you are an intelligent person who can distiguish right from wrong, good from bad and acceptible from unacceptible. It's all about the choices YOU make that determine with path you want your life to go.