It varies from person to person. Some handles a stressful situation with calmness and some starts roaring.
When I am in a stressful condition. I don't speak much. I try to tell my problem to my parents and to my best friend. They always give me a good advice. I pray and think positive. I always try to solve the problem by myself.
It is good that you do not tell everyone about your problem. Just talk only with your best friend and in my opinion parents are the best.
Hi shearn 157,
I have M.S. (multiple sclerosis) and stress is really not good for me since it tends to intensify my symptoms. Stress is really not good for anybody though.
When I come upon a stressful situation I usually walk away and I don't speak. I usually try to forget about it . . . For now. When I calm down is when I take some quiet time to think about the situation and what was said or done and how it should be handled. Other than that, I try not to deal with anything but the good. I think, I pray and I try to sort it out. The answer will come, and if it doesn't, oh well.
These strategies are all new things for me. I used to enter into the conflicts readily [because I have always just loved conflict - I am Italian after all! LOL!], and I always spoke my mind very quickly, but for me to walk away from a confrontation and not talk about something until I calm down are tremendous steps forward for me!
These Bible verses from Luke and James have helped me adjust my ways.
[Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. James, Chapter 1 verses 19 and 20], and
[Do not judge and you will not be judged. Do not condemn and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven. Give and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Luke, Chapter 6, verses 17 and 18].
Thanks for listening and have a WONDERFUL day!!
I will go some where and walk around..some time idea won't come out in your mind when you are keep thinking of it...I tried to seek other alternative that can solve problem, and make decision to take further action. I kept and kept trying to do the best thru last experience, be responsible to what you have done, no matter right or wrong, because every process is a step of learning in our life.
To be honest I don't like it when I'm stressed, it makes everything difficult, so as much as possible I always try to anticipate things, Financial crisis is the most stressful situation that I encountered recently and as well as my family. I handled this situation by immediately accepting the present situation and then go about developing a solution for this matter.Because, I believe that once you encountered situation like this,you have to just face the situation and solve it. No matter how hard it is, the only way to relieve stress is to solve it.
I handle it in many aspects such as what is that all about. First knowing all the do's and don't's in that situation.
My brother-in-law teased me about the wig I wore because I lost all my hair from chemotherapy. He said he wanted to have it because he could wear it for Halloween. I walked away the first two times he asked me. The stress came when I couldn't protect myself. I could hardly believe that someone, much less my effen brother-in-law, would say something like that to a cancer patient. Think of this, he is an elder in church, a former elected politician, an attorney. The third time he asked, I told him that I'm donating it to American Cancer Society because it might make someone feel normal, like a woman, again. Yay Me! Know that we are allowed to champion ourselves.
I tried directly, many of my answers and questions were of true thinking, and sometimes I wonder if maybe my condition of abuse was for a God thing, because although it was real to me, later in my lifetime I looked back, and in understanding hindsite can be 20/20, in fact it just could be that it was meant to be that I remembered later in my life about a very plausible murder, that can either bring up the hurtfulness of parents that have already buried their son, or something that may have been known all along and constantly bittered about due to the intel of the plausible murderer, or, I think of trying to think of the other person still living today with the thought he may have already buried, that it was never his fault at all. And it could be that everything I loved and lost was just for that reason alone, and maybe I may have back again once more in truth not fright and uprightrieousness, so I can once agaiin not feel anger but once again feel free, right here in America. Like I should have felt all along.
Financial crisis is the most stressful situation that I encountered recently and as well as my family. I handled this situation by immediately accepting the present situation and then go about developing a solution for this matter.Because, I believe that once you encountered situation like this,you have to just face the situation and solve it. No matter how hard it is, the only way to relieve stress is to solve it.
I keep quit and just go away...
Stress make me more motive to solve the problem, and when I solve it than I have rest otherwise I can not sleep.
GIVING THE PERSON CAUSING THE STRESS THE SILENT TREATMENT AND OR WALKING AWAY FROM THEM , ALSO, TRY TAKING WALKS THAT HELPS , DO DEEP BREATHING EXCERSIZES
ALSO TRY ANSWERING OTHER PEOPLES QUESTIONS , INSTEAD OF ASKING THEM ..LISTENING TO MUSIC HELPS A LOT .
I started cutting myself.