Yes she can give you HIV. HIV is usually contracted by contact to an open wound ,cut or oral or anal sex. If you are using other methods chances are you will be ok. You never know if you have a sore in your mouth or not. And you know you can get HIV by sharing needles with someone who has the virus. I would contact your Dr. And have a consultation with him to really discuss this issue. Its better to be safe than sorry. Contact a Dr who specializes in this area, and they will give you things to read all about it. Most clinics also carry this information. Please rate my answer