God is loving and full of compassion. I do not know about the mysteries of the afterlife. I suppose that there are things that most of us cannot know about in this life, but still I think that we should hold onto life, no matter how much pain we are in.
God is loving and full of compassion. I do not know about the mysteries of the afterlife. I suppose that there are things that most of us cannot know about in this life, but still I think that we should hold onto life, no matter how much pain we are in.
Nevertheless, this is a question that is often asked. One reason is that, the human condition being what it is, most people who live any length of time go through periods of intense difficulty, grief and even despair, some more than others. The other reason, I believe, that people pose this question is that, in their hearts, deep down, they do believe that God condemns suicide. If they did not, neither question nor answer would be an issue.
The only clear guidance, though somewhat indirect, that I find in Scripture is the story of Job. Job after a series of great tragedies in his life falls very ill and is in despair. He not only wishes to die, he wishes he had never been born! His wife comes to him and advises him: "Curse God and die!" To which he replies: "Shall we accept good from God and not trouble?" To me the inference of that "Curse God and die!" phrase is the acknowledgement that, as each human life comes from God, to take one's own life is the final and most extreme act of rebellion one can perform against God. How God deals with that is between him and the individual who commits suicide, but most people do not expect to escape judgement if they curse God to his face!
The supreme tragedy of such a course of action is that, very often, the feelings of despair and grief are God knocking on the door of a person's heart asking to be let into his/her life, so that he can lead him/her out into the light of joy again. The poet Francis Thompson beautifully expresses this in his poem, "The Hound of Heaven" of which I add Part of the final stanza:
All which I took from thee I did but take,
Not for thy harms,
But just that thou might'st seek it in My arms.
All which thy child's mistake
Fancies as lost, I have stored for thee at home :
Rise, clasp My hand, and come !"
Halts by me that footfall :
Is my gloom, after all,
Shade of His hand, outstretched caressingly ?
"Ah, fondest, blindest, weakest,
I am He Whom thou seekest !
Thou dravest love from thee, who dravest me."
This is well worth reading and I attach a web address where it can be read in full:
www.cs.drexel.edu
Please read this. I have never come across anything that explains it better.
One day, a nun from this Catholic hospital asked if she could talk to me. I nodded yes. When she asked about me all I could do was cry and say that I just wanted permission. She asked for what. I said I had been praying every day for God to take me home or give me a sign of permission. I don't even remember how I got that bad. I am bipolar.
She said to me: "The Church would not like to hear me tell you this dear, but God loves you. I believe that if you are in so much pain that you can not endure life, and you end your life, that He will love you no less than He does right now. He is a forgiving and loving Father."
I cried and cried and found no more words. She walked me back to my bed and I never saw her again. I trust her words. I have since found strength and I am still here. I have tried suicide since then at another time, when I do not remember even doing it, but even with a temperature of 109 I am still here. I guess it's not my time just yet.
People claim that a person who commits suicide goes to hell, which, in its enterity, is false. I confided in a priest (I'm Roman Catholic) about my suicidal thoughts and he explained things to me. He explained that if you are suffering from a mental illness, there is really nothing you can do to control it, because you are suffering and its hard to control your thoughts, so you won't go to hell. It's when people do it for selfish reasons, I think, or depending on the type of person you are. In my opinion, people don't go to hell for committing suicide. It depends on the type of person you are and what you have done in your life, not the method in which you have died. My religion teacher explained this to me also.
It's important to know that Atheists have the highest rate of suicide.